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11/17/2020 0 Comments

Tips & Tricks: Creating Patterns

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More and more stitchers are becoming interested in creating their own patterns—either to break into next-level creativity or because they cannot find exactly what they are looking for from the many designers and creators out there. 

Whatever your reason, here are some helpful tips and tricks for creating a cross-stitch pattern. 

Be realistic
If you are not a designer (or have a designer's "eye"), don't start by trying to create a full-coverage piece. It's not that you can't, it's just that it takes time to build up to a piece with lots of details. Start with some smaller pieces so you can refine your skills, reduce frustration, and reduce the chance of giving up on pattern creation altogether. 

Don't snag someone else's design
You may be tempted to use elements of other designer's work to create your own. Please don't. People work very hard to come up with their original designs. If you do see a design that you think would make a great pattern, reach out to the artist to ask permission. You'd be surprised at how many artists are flattered that you want to adapt their work, especially if they are not into stitching!

If you want to try your hand at designing but you're not a good hand-drawing, consider subscribing to services that provide art, like Creative Fabrica. If there is a chance that you may be selling these patterns some day, be sure that you have a service that includes commercial use of artwork or that the art you are selecting is OK for commercial use. This may require you to read fine print (GASP!) but it's important to protect yourself and respect the artist. Different artists and art sources have different parameters for commercial use so don't assume (ass-u-me) you're OK on one site because you are OK on another.

Decide if you want to design on paper or on your computer
I can't draw. I can picture what I want to create in my head, but I can't translate that to a drawing on paper or draw from scratch in Illustrator, Procreate, or another design software. 
What I am really good at is putting together elements to make a design. For that reason, I use a design program to create the art for pattern then import that art into stitching software.

Stitching software is another matter of personal preference. While I use MacStitch (the Mac companion to WinStitch), there are many others. [Note: For a run-down on cross-stitch pattern creation software, you should head over to Lord Libidan's great cross-stitch blog.]

For smaller, simpler pattern — or if you are a talented artist — gridding it out on graph paper is a great, low-tech option. And, if you are designing just for your own enjoyment, it works perfectly! 

Be prepared to modify your pattern while stitching
When you start stitching your pattern, you're likely to find errors or want to tweak parts of your creation. Don't be discouraged. It's absolutely normal. That's why pattern creators generally stitch their designs before making them available to the public. 

If you are planning to sell your patterns, here are some additional tips:

Be aware of the size of your design
It's easy to get caught up in the stitching part of your pattern rather than the finishing part. Consider typical frame and hoop sizes when planning your pattern. If you make an odd-sized pattern, your buyers may have a difficult time finding off-the-shelf finishing options. 

Use readily avalable flosses
Sure, there are some stitchers that like to bring their own flair to any pattern, substituting floss colors and brands, using hand-dyed fabrics, and so much more. But for those who like to follow patterns to the letter, don't make it difficult for them to find the called-for colors. There are some DMC colors that are not widely available, especially in stores. Yes, people can order floss online but if you only need one skein it's difficult to justify ordering it and paying shipping (especially if it turns out to be an international shipment). 

Make the pattern available in different formats
As more and more people work from tablets, phones, and laptops rather than printed pattern pages, be sure to deliver the pattern in multiple ways: People who like to work from printed patterns appreciate when patterns are broken up into sections so individual squares are clearer. Those who work from a screen prefer to have a one-page digital pattern that they can display on their tablet or phone. 
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11/12/2020 0 Comments

There is no "right way"

I'm teaching my husband, an engineer, how to cross stitch. 

I'll admit that I'm not the most patient teacher, especially with people I know. But I am also confident that my husband is not the most patient pupil. 

If you know any engineers, you'll know that most engineers think and act precisely. Why? Because, as my husband likes to remind me, when you aren't precise, people could die: airplanes can crash, bridges could buckle, our power grid could fail, medical devices could cause harm. Yeah, my husband is a very up-beat and positive person, right? 

Now take that need for precision and bring it to our world of cross stitching. Sure, what we do, in most cases, follows a pattern so you'd think that would be great for someone who craves precision. 

Not my husband. 

I'm from the "it's art, so do what feels right" school of creativity, including cross stitch. As a student, my husband wants to know what to do, step-by-step, and doesn't want to hear any variations on the "right" way to do it. 

I see similar approaches to stitching in many of the cross stitching (and general crafting) groups I belong to on Facebook. Regardless of the poster's level of stitching expertise, there is often a question of finding the "right way." It doesn't matter if it's about where to start your pattern, or the technique to start (or end) your stitches, or how to wash your finished project (if at all): stitchers are seeking THE answer.

This may be an unpopular opinion, but there isn't one correct way to do anything. There are best practices, but not clear right or wrong. 

Cross stitching is your art, so don't let anyone dictate how you practice your art. Take chances. Make mistakes (and don't frog them). Sometimes your experiments will work out but, to be honest, sometimes it won't look the way you envisioned, but you may learn a new technique that you can try when stitching something else or be able to decipher where you went wrong.

Start your pattern wherever you want. Mix up the direction of your stitches for added texture. Swap out French knots for beads. Knot your thread. Never wash your fabric. Don't bother framing your finished projects. The world is at your fingertips and no one can tell you what to do. 

Sure, ask for advice on the fabric you choose for a pattern, or whether you should backstitch or not, but don't let the posts you see in your stitching communities or the people who comment on your work make you question your decisions about your own projects. Heck, you may even find more people who approach stitching the way you do and build an entirely new community of like-minded, adventurous stitchers.


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10/21/2020 0 Comments

To Grid or Not to Grid

I think I learn something new about stitching every week (loop start anyone?), but one thing that is new to me is the concept of gridding.

First, what is gridding? Gridding is the process of physically marking your fabric in 10×10 square blocks, similar to your pattern layout.

There are a few techniques to grid your fabric:
Pre-gridded fabric exists and simplifies the whole gridding process. As wonderful and time-saving as this can be, it does have some drawbacks. It can be a little more expensive than standard fabric. Also, the selection of fabrics with pre-gridding can limited, though Wichelt seems to be releasing additional counts to expand the selection. 123stitch.com has a great selection of Wichelt Easy Count fabric.

But that leads to the next method of gridding: fabric markers. If you sew, you have probably used a fabric marker on your projects. Using a non-permanent marker to grid your cross-stitch fabric is one way to go. Make sure you are using a fabric marker that either washes out or disappears when heat is applied. I cannot stress this enough. I've heard horror stories of stitchers who thought they had used a non-permanent marking tool, only to find their grid is not washing out...after they have completed their project. Yikes!
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There are many fabric pen options, including the Pilot Frixion Erasable Ink pen, the Dritz Mark-B-Gone pen,  and the DMC Embroidery Transfer pen.

If you don't want to mess with markers, you can grid using floss.

With floss gridding, you can use any floss you have on hand to weave lines in and out of your fabric to mark your grid on your fabric. It is a very loose weave of floss that some stitchers pull out as you stitch (others remove the guide floss after finishing their pattern).  
Friend of StitchLife, Notorious Needle has a great tutorial for the two DIY grid techniques.

Now that you know what a gridding is, how do you know if it is for you? What you choose to do depends on you! 

I have never gridded my fabric but I've spoken to others who have in order to understand the projects and circumstances best suited for gridding.

Personally, I don't grid because I find the process time-consuming and I'd rather just start stitching. I'm impatient that way.

But if you can't concentrate on counting as you stitch, gridding may be for you. Some parents I know who are called away frequently choose to grid so they can get back to stitching ASAP upon returning to their project. Many people find that gridding helps them stitch faster since your gridded fabric starts to look like your pattern, you can breeze through both long stretches of the same color or long stretches of empty spaces between colors (or even the same color with breaks in between).

If you choose to grid before starting your project, be careful! If your grids are off and you realize after you start stitching, you may get a long visit from the frog to fix your mistake.
If you use a fabric marker to grid, make sure that both your floss and fabric are colorfast. It would be horrible to be washing your finish only to find out that your over-dyed floss or custom fabric isn't colorfast.

What are your thoughts on gridding? Share with other StitchLifers!
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10/13/2020 0 Comments

Introducing the Impostor

Have you been wanting to start that Etsy shop? Film tutorial videos for YouTube? Start a blog? 

Are you paralyzed with fear to do any of those things? You may have purchased that URL, set up a business PayPal account, even started building a website or Etsy shop. Does the thought of telling people that you are selling your creativity give you severe anxiety? Are you procrastinating taking that next step to make your dream of making your side hustle your main gig — and then get depressed because you feel like you'll never achieve that dream? 

I assure you, you are not alone. And there is a name for what you may be feeling: Impostor Syndrome. 

There are a number of other names for the phenomenon — impostorism, fraud syndrome, impostor experience — but the feelings are the same: the lack of belief that you deserve success or that any recognition you receive isn't deserved or is the product of "luck."

The phenomenon was named in 1978 by Dr. Pauline R. Clance and Dr. Suzanne A. Imes in their article The Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention. The two doctors defined impostor syndrome as "an individual experience of self-perceived intellectual phoniness/fraud" after interviewing 150 high-achieving women. 

In their research, Clance and Imes found that even though these women received significant accolades for their achievements, they attributed their success to luck and that their supporters were over estimating their contributions and intellect. 

What leads to this self-doubt when others recognize success? The 1978 study recognized many factors, including gender stereotypes, family background and dynamics, and culture. 

This feeling of being a fraud — and the related fear of being "found out" — can lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-confidence. Oh, and rumination...which is a fancy word for overthinking (sound familiar?).

While at first, researchers believed the concept of impostor syndrome was seen more frequently in women, more recent studies have shown that it is seen equally in men and women. 

Let me share a personal story, not based in any fancy research by PhDs.

​I launched StitchLife on a whim in early 2020, in response to a post in a Facebook group for cross stitchers. No shit. It was truly me opening my big mouth (or, in this case, typing with my big fingers) and connecting with others who thought it was a decent idea. 

From the end of January to the end of February, when we released the first issue, I didn't have time to think about what I was jumping into. Then I was about to press SEND on the email with the first issue. My body went stiff and numb at the same time. What the fuck are you doing? my brain said to me. Who are you to think you can write a magazine about cross stitching? You don't even know what frogging is or how to do the loop start. You are a fake! 

Seriously, that's what I said to myself. Even though I started my career working for a well-known business magazine in NYC, I had been stitching on-and-off for 40 years, and I was the VP of marketing and communications at a tech company...I still felt like a fraud and that by putting myself out there, everyone was going to see that this emporor had on no clothes.

 I then recognized that this self-doubt was impostor syndrome — and, like other emotional battles, it was more common than I knew. In fact, some studies suggest that as many as 70% of adults in the workforce have, at one time or another, experienced some level of impostor syndrome.

Let me take the time to point out that although common and sometimes situational, impostor syndrome is not recognized in the 
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders or International Classification of Diseases, literally the books on classifying and categorizing mental health disorders and diseases. In my research, I wasn't able to come up with a solid answer to why but I wanted to make this point. 

And since impostor syndrome can be situational — meaning you may not have the phenomenon in some areas of your life but experience it in others — it can sometimes sneak up on you.

As I mentioned earlier, in my "real" life I am a marketing boss lady. I have been working in marketing in some form for my entire professional career (more than 25 years!) and there are rarely times when I feel like a fraud at work. I may diminish my contributions to a successful work project, but I don't sit in meetings or give presentations and feel less than, if that makes sense.

But in my side hustle, StitchLife, I often feel that I don't have the qualifications that others do. And while I had already committed to the magazine, I knew that I had to create videos and share tips and techniques...and I still feel like I have no business doing that. 

I feel like I have to be perfect and know everything about cross stitch in order to be a contributing member of the community and live up to the role I created for myself as the founder of StitchLife. 

As cliche as it seems, recognizing that you experience some level of impostor syndrome  — and knowing that others are likely feeling similar feelings — is the first step to managing it. 

I've read a lot about techniques to help you realize and acknowledge your worth and value and my biggest takeaway is that opening up about your feelings to people you trust can go a long way. Whether you find a mentor or a partner, surrounding yourself with positive support can help you recognize your accomplishments and enjoy your success.


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Sources: Wikipedia, apa.org, time.com, businessinsider.com. Illustration courtesy of medium.com
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10/6/2020 0 Comments

I'm all too aware of breast cancer every month of the year

Each October, we blanket everything in pink to remind us that hundreds of thousands of people around the world are battling breast cancer. 

We have fundraisers to help those suffering from the disease pay for all the expenses associated with fighting cancer, including paying bills and buying food. These funds also help support research to find a cure.  

Some of these people (yes, men as well as women) will have the good fortune to have their breast cancer caught early — and the additional good fortune to have healthcare to support treatment and recovery. 

These people, with proper care, can expect a 5-year recovery rate of 99%. That means that 99% of people who are diagnosed with early-stage breast cancer will be alive five years from their diagnosis. 

That's the good news.

The bad news is that 30% of those people will see a recurrence  —  possibly within that 5-year window but perhaps many years down the road  —  and that recurrence may present itself as late-stage cancer. 

When that cancer is diagnosed as Stage IV, it's known as metastatic breast cancer. 

Honestly, this is the cancer that no one wants to talk about. This is the really destructive cancer that spreads to other parts of the body, usually through the bloodstream or the lymphatic system. The most common areas to find metastasized breast cancer is in the bones, the brain, the liver, and the lungs. 

This is the cancer my sister had. Yes, had. She passed away in 2010, just a month from her 45th birthday. She left behind a husband, two stepchildren, two cats, a business she had built from nothing, and a large circle of family and friends. 

My sister was part of the 30%. She was diagnosed with Stage I, non-invasive breast cancer in the early 2000s. A dutiful patient, she followed her oncologist's treatment plan  —  lumpectomy, radiation  —  and went back, as instructed, for regular checkups and scans. She took her tamoxifen. 

About a month short of her 5-year milestone, she wasn't feeling great and, over the winter holidays that year, she admitted to me that she was worried that her cancer had returned. 

She had to beg her doctor (and insurance) to have another scan because she was so close to her 5-year anniversary, she was young, her previous scan had been clear.  She finally got the authorization, went in for the diagnostic tests, and scheduled the follow up with the same oncologist who had treated her previously. 

I went with her to that appointment and I will never forget that day. Since I've already given you the ending of this story, you know that my sister's cancer had returned, and it was metastatic. In fact, her left femur was so diseased that the doctor was concerned that she would break her leg as a result of one simple fall.  The oncologist gave her about 18 months to live, an endless prescription for morphine, and walked out of the room. He had dumped all that information on her in less than 10 minutes and ushered in his nurse to "take care of the details". 

What happened in the next 30 minutes is still, frankly, a blur for me so I can't imagine what was going through my sister's mind. Questions about clinical trials, scheduling surgery to insert a metal rod in her leg, a series of brain and bone scans, authorization for handicapped parking, forms to file for disability, business cards for support groups and charitable organizations. 

This is process is not uncommon, I came to learn. And I came to learn so much more about metastatic breast cancer than I ever wanted to know.

For example, 27% of people diagnosed with Stage IV/metastatic breast cancer can live for at least five years with the disease, but there is no cure. Researchers have developed many treatment protocols to slow the spread of the disease and to try to give patients a decent quality of life, as well as drugs to minimize the side effects of the treatments (and drugs to minimize the side effects of those drugs). 

But many patients, like my sister, are always waiting for the other shoe to drop  —  have doctors exhausted all treatment options? will I have to have another surgery? what if my insurance stops covering my treatment? what if the next scan shows even more spread? 

You may have followed the breast cancer diagnosis of actress Shannen Doherty, from the 1990s Fox hit series Beverly Hills, 90210. She was originally diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015, finished her initial treatment in 2017, and was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in early 2019.  Her story is a bit like my sister's: Doherty had unusual back pains that led her to visit her doctor for tests to find the cause. She got the same diagnosis as my sister  —  but sadly Doherty was alone when she got the news about her PET scan results. I can't imagine.

The author of the article about Doherty in a recent issue of Elle, Katie Pickert, wrote something I feel is both poignant and accurate: 

"A breast cancer patient in remission knows it’s never really over. There is the long-lasting damage from the treatment to contend with—the lingering effects of chemotherapy, for example, or the loss of a natural breast that can never be replaced, plastic surgery notwithstanding. The terror of the diagnosis is also hard to forget, especially because after breast cancer treatment ends, there is always the chance the disease might recur."

As Doherty states about her own future and wrapping up her affairs: "It feels like you’re signing off, and I’m not signing off,” she says. “I feel like I’m a very, very healthy human being. It’s hard to wrap up your affairs when you feel like you’re going to live another 10 or 15 years.”

And Doherty could live another decade or more. The landscape of breast cancer drugs and treatments changes regularly.  As stated previously, between one-quarter and one-third of those diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer will live at least 5 years after diagnosis. 

For my sister, we had that 18-month timeline in our heads from the day the oncologist provided that number  —  we called it an expiration date. We saw that date come and go and tried to joke about it being a sell-by date and not a full expiration date. We tried to joke about as much as we could just to cope. 

In some ways, my sister was fortunate. As a family, we committed to devoting all our available resources to support her and her family during her treatment. I relocated back to my hometown. My retired mother went back to work part time. We knew how to track down support organizations that helped with transportation, utility payments, and so much more. 

Not all people battling metastatic breast cancer has a support network that can regularly help them, the access to reliable healthcare, the money or insurance to afford life-extending treatments, and the knowledge or time to look for community organizations dedicated to helping those in need. 

In fact, women of color are much more likely to die of breast cancer than their white sisters. And it likely isn't surprising to learn that women who are living near or below the poverty line and/or in inner cities have higher mortality rates than those with higher incomes and in different living situations. And for those women of color who have metastatic breast cancer, the prognosis is even more dire. 

This is the reality of metastatic breast cancer. It’s not just pink ribbons and jerseys.

And, for the record, my sister hated the color pink.



 

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StitchLife is donating all proceeds from the sale of our Hope pattern duo to African American Breast Cancer Aliance. We're also donating a portion of every new VIP membership to the cause. Help us make this a donation to remember.
References: cdc.gov; nationalbreastcancer.org; breastcancer.org, komen.org; cancer.net; American Society of Clinical Oncologists; Elle Magazine online, Doherty Is Not Signing Off Just Yet, Katie Pickert, September 29, 2020.

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6/5/2020 0 Comments

Black Lives Matter

PicturePattern by Sarah Vargas of Notorious Needle. Download for free in her Facebook group: https://NotoriousNeedle.com/FacebookGroup
As you may know, stitching was historically used, in some cases, to express political and even subversive views and to involve women, who were typically the stitchers at the time, in causes and activities of importance to them and society. Women weren't in the room so they had to find ways to include themselves in the issues of the day.
I am fairly active in a number of Facebook stitching groups and have seen, over and over, people frustrated by political posts in stitching discussions.
"Can't we keep this to stitching," is the overarching mantra from these posters. 
My answer to that: Absolutely not.
StitchLife may be about stitching, but it's also about life - and life is messy (like the back of my stitch projects) and uncertain and complicated. Life is lived in gray areas. Stitching may bring color to our day-to-day but it isn't the only thing happening in any of our lives.
On any given day, our members may be living with grief, depression, abuse, food, housing, and/or financial insecurity, sexism, racism, xenophobia, hate, poor health, and so much more. Turning away from these life events because this is a "stitching group" is short-sighted.
We are here to help each other holistically - not just in finding a particular floss that is sold out at your LNS or big-box store.
StitchLife was founded on the premise that this is not your momma's needlepoint. We will not be silent. We will not blindly accept. We will not squash opinions, even when they are not in line with those of the founders of this publication. We will not stay quietly in the dark because we feel that whatever is happening in society doesn't impact our lives as stitchers. We will not bury our heads in the sand, ignoring what is going on around us just because we are a group of cross stitchers. 
As for StitchLife, just to be clear:
  • We are an inclusive group that supports the LGBTQ+ community, believes that Black Lives Matter, feels love is love is love, and wants to keep learning about how to make the world a kinder, better place.
  • We encourage healthy debate, question asking, support seeking, and ignorance busting in this group.
  • We will not censor posts unless they are hate-filled rhetoric or outright lies.
  • We also will not stand for the "I'm offended, please remove your post" stances on our Facebook groups because when you accepted the group rules, you were warned.
Thank you for reading all this, if you have, and please email me if you have any questions or issues. Or, because we welcome all opinons, please post below.

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4/22/2020 0 Comments

Stay-at-Home Survival Tips: Part 5

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I heard on the news today that South Carolina (USA) is the latest state to cancel in-person schools for the rest of the academic year. I also heard the collective sigh of parents across the U.S. trying to figure out how to balance their homes being offices, schools, movie theaters, restaurants, dog parks, houses, and sometimes even doctors' offices. 
I'm going to start this by telling you: I don't have human children. I'm not going to pretend to understand what parents are experiencing right now. I do, however, have lots of friends all over the United States who have children from age 3 months-old to 25+ years-old. These parents post their experiences and frustrations on social media, and I take notice. 
You may have seen the same posts I have; or at least the same theme. Some are funny. Some are frustrating. Some make me glad I only have dogs. 
But just because I'm honoring our stay-home order in a house with only my husband and our dogs, I'm going to share some thoughts on keeping your cool when you are seeing the same people in the same setting, all day, every day. 
Keep a Schedule
Even though we don't have children, we still believe in keeping a schedule. I'm not that high-strung, I promise, I just know that my husband needs routine while he's home. I have worked from home before so all this home time isn't bothering me much. We have kept our weedays on our "normal" weekday schedule of getting up, taking the dogs to daycare, starting work, stopping for meals, doing chores around the house. We go to bed at our normal "school-night" time and get up "for work" at the same time as we used to. It helps us tremendously. It helps our dogs, to be honest, to have their schedule, too. Friends have told me that they are staying up later, sleeping more, eating mindlessly, and are generally feeling more out of sorts. Schedules may seem boring but in this time when the month of March seemed to be 93 days long and most days start by asking, 'What day is it?' on your first conference call of the day, they are so important to keep grounded during this unreal time. 
Editor's Note: If you have a toddler, you are likely laughing at this "schedule" nonsense. You should be. Toddlers live by their own rules, which change every hour. 
Share Home Responsibilites
My former boss and his wife have this stay-home stuff perfected. Seriously. They are taking this time to have fun with their two middle-schoolers and their two dogs. They have "PE class" together most days, go on nature walks to do photography during "art class," and share meal-making responsibilities throughout the week. I asked my boss if he would rent out his daughter to teach me how to cook after I saw pictures of a remarkable seafood dish she made. I'm sure they still bicker about taking care of the pets or putting away laundry, but making required online learning entertaining and dividing day-to-day chores so they aren't falling on just one or two people helps everyone, ok helps busy parents, cope a little better. Ultimately, if that means fewer meltdowns, it will make this unexpected forced-family time a little more bareable. 
Indulge
A dear friend of mine has a family date night every week with his wife and two children. They have a wheel where they each got to put two of their favorite every-day type restaurants. They added a couple of spinner's choice spaces and that's how they pick where they are going to enjoy their date night meal. They've continued to do a modified version of this during the pandemic, just switching to places that are either doing takeaway or delivery. That's their quarantine indulgance -- and it keeps a sense of normalcy at a time when my friend is working from home, the kids are learning online, and his wife is furloughed. Maybe your indulgance is getting an ice cream cake at the grocery store or renting a first-run movie from your TV. Whatever it is, try to celebrate being together at least once per week. 
Get Outside
Most states' stay-at-home orders don't prevent you from going outside, even to public and state parks. Now is a great time to do yard work, plant your garden, wash the outside of your home's windows, or just walk around! For the record, I'm not advocating outside play dates with the neighborhood kids or a pick-up game of basketball at the community courts -- I'm talking activities that get you outside, gets you away from a screen, the couch. and/or the news. A change of landscape could do a world of good. My best friend in NYC has been on lockdown, arguably the strictest in the United States, for about 10 weeks. For those people who have never lived in or visited NYC, it is not designed for staying in your apartment all the time. Trust me. I lived there for eight years. Apartments are small, kitchens are tiny and have appliances and cabinetry that barely will hold enough food for a few meals. There are thousands of restaurants because New Yorkers eat on the run. They are in packed buses and subways multiple times per day. Add to all that activity my very outgoing BFF. Not a good combo. When I asked how she was coping she told me that going out for a run or long walk is what keeps her sane. She said that she trys to go outside -- in full compliance of all NYC regulations -- at least once per day. She keeps those outings purposeful and focused. 
Of course, please check your local regulations, follow all precautions, and wear protective equipment -- and only go out if you are not testing positive, waiting for test results, or are immunocompromised. 
Find Ways to Help Others - as a Family
My former roommate's wife is not only kind and caring, she's hella crafty, too. They live in New York (state, not city) so their stay-at-home order started a little earlier than most. As soon as the PPE shortages were announced, she started a family production line for cloth masks. Even though she has two teenagers, she was able to get everyone together for a few hours per day to churn out masks and deliver them to local healthcare facilities. Not only were they doing something together, and filling their days with something other than YouTube and Netflix, they were doing their parts to help their community. If sewing isn't your thing, how about volunteering at the food bank or offering to foster an animal to help your local animal shelter? I know a friend who goes on hikes with her family -- and have decided to clean up the trails that they hike each weekend by picking up trash, cleaning up the path ammenities, and moving path hazards. 

If all else fails, focus on what you can focus on. I'm a big fan of a checklist (see photo above) that a friend posted on Facebook to keep in line and continue to do as much as I'm capable of right now. 

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4/14/2020 0 Comments

Stay-Home Survival Tips: Part 4

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I see more and more pictures of stitchers with their stitching buddies - cats, dogs, rabbits, guinea pigs (you know who you are!), and more. As someone who generally prefers pets over people, I love these photos. Love them. They warm my heart. 
Then I talked to a friend whose sweet little dog swallowed one of her cross-stitch needles. 
As you can imagine, she was panicked. Luckily, her pup was fine, after a trip to the emergency vet and surgery to remove the offending needle. But it scared my friend shitless. 
So I got to thinking about all the things we work with while stitching that can be dangerous to our furry and feathered friends.

Needles
That's the obvious one. They are so easy to lose - even with needle minders or what I scientifically call the "couch arm method" (jamming it into the arm of whatever chair you're in!). I have dropped my needle so many times and only found it when it stabbed me in the flesh. Now imagine if your fuzzy friend found it first. Curious kitties may get one lodged in their paws. Nosy pups could swallow that needle, just like my friend's dog did. 
Injuries could run from a benign poke in the paw to complex surgery or worse. 

Needle Minders
While those magnetic cuties may be helpful while stitching, they could be dangerous for your pet. Those little magnets can be swallowed and called all sorts of digestive havoc. "While even one magnet can cause problems, such as obstruction and/or irritation of an animal’s digestive tract, the real danger happens when two or more magnets are swallowed by a curious, mischievous, or otherwise wayward pet," preventivevet.com reports.

Floss

I'm not positive, but I am pretty sure that the internet was made for cute cat videos, especially kittens playing with string. You may still think it's cute to taunt your pet with your floss, seeing them swat at it as you dangle it in front of their curious faces. Just stop there. In doing some research on PetMD, I learned that an animal swallowing string, yarn, floss, or twine is called swallowing a linear foreign body. It can be incredibly dangerous for your fur baby to swallow long lengths of floss and it may be instinctual to immediately try to pull it out of their mouths. Don't! Take your pet to the vet immediately so it can be removed safely. 

Fabric
No shit, it can be dangerous to your pet. Many fabrics have dyes or fabric stiffener that, if ingested, can be harmful to your pet. It can also be dangerous for your pet to eat and swallow your fabric -- not just because it could cause tummy issues or gastric obstruction -- but you would likely get pretty angry if they used your fabric as a chew toy!

​Any Small Do-Dad
OK, this is a bit of a catch-all but there are so many little thingies that we use during our stitching -- clips, organizational accessories, stretchers, threaders, bobbins, and so, so much more (she says as she looks at the loads of stitch-related stuff around her). There are so many things to swallow, chew on, lick -- heck, even floss conditioner that is 100% beeswax could upset your pet's GI system (though it is not 100% toxic for dogs and cats). 

Let's face it, your nosy pet is gonna be in your stitching business -- just be sure to watch what they are doing when you have your stash out and try not to tease them with your supplies so they aren't tempted to dip into your project bag like it was their toy box!

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4/8/2020 0 Comments

Stay-at-Home Survival Tips: Part 3

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Depending on where you live, you have been following stay-at-home orders for a few weeks...or more. We've covered ways to keep moving while you are staying home and how to cope during the quarantine. 

Now I want to cover how you can help others...if you are able. 

Stay Home
Seriously, just stay the fuck home. We're stitchers...so stitch if you have the mojo to do so. I've heard several people say they have lost their stitching and crafting groove since this hit. That's OK, too, but just stay home. If not for yourself, for the others who you may encounter if you are unneccessarily out and about.
If you must go out, practice physical distancing, wear a mask, don't take, as a family friend used to say, "the whole fam damnly" with you. Respect others and especially respect the service workers who are risking their own health to make sure you have access to fresh food, medication, and other essentials. 
And speaking of essentials -- I'm not going to tell you what is essential to you but think very carefully before choosing to go out for comfort items, including stitching supplies. For some, they can be essential because stitching helps soothe the effects of depression and anxiety. That's cool. Shopping for a new pair of earrings for yourself...can probably wait. 

Support a Food Bank
In the last few weeks, unemployment in the U.S. has skyrocketed and the demand on social support systems has increased substantially, including food banks and free meal providers. If you are able, please consider donating money to a local service that supports those who are food insecure. Not only are the shelves and kitchens of these groups becoming more bare than they are comfortable with, they are facing huge decreases in donations from restaurants, which typically would donate leftover food but aren't open to do that any longer.

Give Blood
COVID-19 doesn't seem like the type of disease that puts stress on a healthcare facility's blood supply, but it is -- for a number of reasons: need for transfusions, fewer blood drives, fewer people coming out to donate blood. All of those factors reduce the inventory in blood banks. I read somewhere that community blood drives are the most effective way for blood banks to build their supply (don't quote me on that). Well, they aren't happening right now; most outreach to get blood donations has been paused indefinitely. To add to that challenge, many smaller communities don't have dedicated blood donation centers for people to visit. It's a perfect storm. Do what you are able to do: vIsit the NHS blood donation site (UK), American Red Cross (US), Australian Red Cross Lifeblood (AU), or Google your country's blood and/or plasma donation services to find a location to donate. 

Donate Plasma
You may have heard of experimental treatments that use plasma from fully recovered COVID-19 patients to treat those still battling the virus. If you fall into the perameters set by your country's health service for the COVID-19 Convalescent Plasma Program, please consider donating plasma. The links above will give you information about donating plasma, as well.  Not sure about other countries, but both the U.K. and U.S. have companies that pay donors for plasma donations, which can help replace any income you may have lost due to business closures. One that comes to mind: BioLife. 

Connect with Neighbors
This one hits home for me. My mother just turned 84 and she lives alone. Though I have a sibling, I'm my mother's main support person -- but I live 2,400 miles away from her. Not being able to be there for her scares the living shit out of me. I don't want her going out but if she needs something, she doesn't have family close by to help her. Long before the pandemic hit, probably because I'm a worrywort, I created a support network for my mom of her friends and neighbors so they could be my eyes and ears when I couldn't be physically present. 
All that said, check in with your neighbors - yes, the people that you likely try to avoid every other time of the year. Mabye they are struggling to make ends meet. Maybe they are immunocompromised and can't go get food for risk of being exposed. Maybe they battle anxiety and depression and are having a hard time making sense of this unbelievable time. There are so many maybes but the bottom line is that we don't know if we don't ask. Sure, some people will brush you off but some may not and it may be the physically distanced contact they needed to get through this safely. 
How do you do this without breeching physical distancing and without knowing phone numbers or email addresses?  Get creative. Find something that is safely shared, put a note offering your assistance, and ring their doorbell. Consider a plant, hand sanitizer, a hand-made mask, or just a note. Remember what your nana always told you: It's the thought that counts. 


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3/31/2020 0 Comments

Stay-at-Home Survival Tips: Part 2

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​Last week, I talked about how to stay active during stay-at-home orders  but this week I'll share my thoughts on how to take care of your mental health during the COVID-19 pandemic. 

Tune Out
One of the biggest problems I have is disconnecting from all the news and information from social media, texts, co-workers. Sometimes you just have to put that phone in a drawer and take a deep breath. The National Institutes of Health put together this great guide for how to get through any stay-home orders or business closures, and turning off electronics plays a part in those recommendations. 

Chillax
I hate to use the term self-love because it has different connotations for me, but I just used it. Practice it. Chillaxing takes on different forms for different people, but here are some of my ideas:
  • Meditate. Don't know where to start? Try a guided meditation through an app or YouTube. One that comes to mind for me is Calm. If you have any suggestions, please share in the comments!
  • Take a tub. I have a boatload of bath bombs and bubble bath and shower steamers that I keep telling myself that I'll use someday. Are you the same? Well, my fellow stitchers, that someday is today! Pamper yourself. 
  • Promenade. Take a walk - an appropriately physically distanced walk, of course. Bring your dog. Or cat. Or no one because you are sick of seeing the people you're stuck inside with. Your call. 
And this leads to my next suggestion...

Shut the Door
Sometimes the best solution is to get away from it all. In this case - to another room in your home, if possible. If you have kids or a bouncing-off-the-walls partner, you may have to schedule that time so others know not to bother you. If you are part of the work-from-home posse, like me, maybe that means blocking off some time on your calendar. 
What do you do now?
STITCH! Grab a book. Listen to a podcast. Read a magazine. Nap. Stare into space. Play Animal Crossing. Whatever floats your boat. The point is to have some quiet time to yourself, without interruptions. 

Dance
Seriously! You can't stay miserable too long when you are dancing! Turn on your favorite music on Spotify and dance around your living room for 5 minutes. Don't know where to start? Pick a character from Peanuts and start moving!  Suitable substitution: Karaoke! 

Talk It Through
As someone who battles with anxiety and depression (and who watches too many news programs), I can understand that many people are struggling at this time. Being stuck at home - even if you are an introvert - can lead to feelings of loneliness and desperation. Add to that the need to home-school your children, work from home, do all your normal adulting and it can get overwhelming. Don't feel like you have to smile through this, pretending everything is puppy dogs and rainbows.
I'm a huge fan of therapy but maybe you can't access your therapist as much as you want or need to - adding to anxiety. Here are some ideas that I've heard while binge-watcing the news for the last 10 days:
  • ​If you have health insurance, you may have expanded access to telehealth, allowing you engage with a healthcare provider without leaving your home.
  • Participate in a virtual meet up with people you know or in groups of people who share common hobbies or interests. I have NYC friends who are doing virtual happy hours on Thursday nights. StitchLife is having regular Virtual Stitching MeetUps to keep us all connected to people other than those we're stuck in the house with (see the schedule on our FB page).
  • Look into virtual therapy options, like TalkSpace. While I didn't see anything about it on their website, I did see a news story that TalkSpace is donating 1,000 months of therapy to healthcare workers and first responders. 
  • Consider calling a hotline to talk through your concerns. The State of New York launched a hotline specifically for those who have COVID-related mental health issues. It is staffed by more than 8,000 volunteer professional therapists. It is unclear as to whether the service is available to people who don't live in New York, but here's the phone number in case you need it: 1-844-863-9314  I'm sure other states have or will have similar hotlines. If you know of anything, leave info below in the comments.

​* Nothing in this blog post is meant to replace advice from your healthcare provider or override your own personal common sense regarding your personal situation. Please stay safe, keep your distance, and be vigilant in following all safety and hygiene recommendations. If you, or someone you love, suffers from any mental health issues, including thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a healthcare professional using one of these resources. If you are outside the U.S., please share reputable contact information with us so we can share with others! 

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